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| Subject: To Sharon |
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Well if he cannot settle in Vancouver then I would highly recommend Montreal, I really love montreal, may be because of my memories, such a beautiful place, who would know that place would be a place for me that would make me turn into tears ...I loved my every moment there.... If you can find a good job over there why not ? ...
But I really do not know your relationship with him, I mean whether you have met him before or lived together, or spent a lot of time together, that is why I would highly recommend you to spend sometime in Vancouver, lets see how he is with you, and you might even great opportunity to learn all his skills, likes, dislikes, and inside as well as his love for you, then you can go wherever you want ... I am recommending such things because my friend from vancouver (a lady) spent her years to get married and bring her ex into Canada, now when there is something about him she just calls him ´ asshole´ ....he was an armenian guy from Beirut. I have to write a book about the things she did for him and I am really sad about her experience.... so I wish you the best, I am definetely sure you are old- mature - smart enough to decide the best for you and for your bf.
[26-07-2006,19:05]
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(in reply to: To Sharon)
I have been to Montreal twice. I think I would appreciate it more now that I did before. Not sure about the winters :)
your friends story... that is the main reason why we are going the slow route. I have no interest in going there and fortunately, he is of similar thinking.
we have met several times under different circumstances. I am confident that what I am seeing is what I am getting. However, as in all relationships... it is a 2 way street and we won´t know the dynamics of our life until we have some sense of permanence and direction.
He is hoping to be here within a few weeks for an extended visit. It will be his second trip and I suspect we will be answering a lot of questions during our time together. I am trying not to be to excited as yet because one never knows about visas and embassies.
My world is quite comfortable and content as it is. So unless things are really great - I have no intentions of making any life changes. One ´asshole´ in my life is enough.
[26-07-2006,19:25]
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sharon |
(in reply to: To Sharon)
That is perfect that he is coming over, I am sure your time with him will be a great brainstorming time. Hope you both follow a realistic way in your relation and the best for both of you....
Lol you are lucky that you had just one ´asshole´ I had many assholes in my life may be that is becasue of my age.....
Those major changes in life for sure affect the relationships as well so you have to be very careful, because any unexpected problem may cause problems both in your life and financial situation, ...We all know that it is really so difficult to find the same job or the job benefits we have at the moment in the future....
Good luck again I am sure you will both do the best ...
[26-07-2006,19:50]
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(in reply to: To Sharon)
thank you. the same to you.
[26-07-2006,20:18]
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sharon |
(in reply to: To Sharon)
Sharon, a word of advice, even though not asked :-)
Try to make him feel independent of you.
He´s a foreigner and it is important for your relationship if he´d get the hang of things his way not yours. You go out together alot, give him sometime to try it on his own. That way he will discover HIS canada and adapt with less dependence. He will still know you are there for him.
I had some past experiences of that nature.
(I have been living in another country for 16yrs).
I believe you are on the right track.
[27-07-2006,06:15]
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Jolli |
(in reply to: To Sharon)
What happened to this forum I thought we use this forum for immigration purpose.
RB: Stop judging people through their nationalities and race. I am not from Beirut or affiliated with it but still.. Watch out what you say. What your friend told you is a one side picture or may be exceptional case. I agree with Sharon it is two way road.
[27-07-2006,13:15]
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MR |
(in reply to: To Sharon)
MR - I thought the conversation was going quite nicely. Giving someone´s ethnic origin is not always a racist remark. It sometimes helps to provide cultural context which is not always derrogatory.
Jolli - thansk for the good advice. As the ´Canadian´ it is hard to stand back and let someone flounder - but you are right... the sweet taste of success is that much sweeter when you can claim it as your own. I will try to constrain myself and only try to ´fix it´ when asked. :)
[27-07-2006,14:53]
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sharon |
(in reply to: To Sharon)
Dear MR. There is no offense, do not take it personally, if I mentioned an asshole from beirut that doesnt mean everybody is the same there....
Assholes are everywhere, that could be an American or Thai or Japan, but that never makes the whole nation an asshole nation...
When you read a paragraph or article or a post here do not pick some single words, read the whole post and read for overall message....
And a personal information my country is a muslim country and have great sympathy for muslims even some of my people live in Beirut..
racism and discrimination are two words I would always fight against in my entire life....
Good luck
[27-07-2006,19:37]
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(in reply to: To Sharon)
sorry... I cannot resist the chance... 50% of every country are assholes - the men.
I think that was the context - not his ethnic origin. And PLEASE do not jump all over me. I am making a joke, OK?
[27-07-2006,19:49]
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sharon |
(in reply to: To Sharon)
Lol ...
Do I look like a person who would jump on friends?
No way ..lol ....smile
[27-07-2006,19:59]
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(in reply to: To Sharon)
yikes... this place gets so touchy some times it is rediculous.
[27-07-2006,20:03]
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sharon |
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