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Subject: My parents gonna send me back to my homecountry!
  I must have pissed my parents a lot. They are going to send me back to Russia this weekend! I just had my 18th birthday. We live in British Columbia and the age of majority here is 19. But in Russia it´s 18. So technically I am adult if I am in Russia. So I think thats technically legal because here I have no rights yet but in Russia I am supposed to survive alone. So basically I have no idea what I would be doing there. It´s impossible to survive in Russia alone and without education! In fact, I would rather kill myself than ever get back there. But I think they wanna send me to army which is mandatory in Russia, when you reach age of 18. And I don´t even have Canadian citizenship yet! So I decided to run away right now. Here is the plan: I gather some food and cloth in my backpack (done), take my Permanent Resident Card, SIN card, High-School Diploma, Health Ensurance card and Birth Certificate (done), get all the money from my debit, and go somewhere. I won´t go to police or anything because they would just send me back to parents. So, I´ll be roaming around for a year until I reach age of 19. Then I get Canadian Citizenship, get a legal job and rent an apartment. And then I´ll be happy as heaven! I will probably take a student loan and go to univ because I got pretty good grades. So why did I type all this? I just wanna share my feelings and hear your opinions about this. For example I would have never thought my parents would do such a thing to me!
[30-01-2007,01:14]
[**.141.83.253]
I am running away
(in reply to: My parents gonna send me back to my homecountry!)
I know this sounds stupid to you now, but today I am a bit older, a bit more mature.. and I never thought it would ever be possible for me to talk just like my parents used to, but.. here I am, giving you advice as they did it with me when I was your age..

Listen, I want you to know that no matter how hopeless your situation seems at this point, no matter how desperate you are, your parents are still your parents and love you! And above all, I am sure, and you know that I am right when I say that you do NOT want to run away from home!

Almost everything (but time) can be reversed! If you really pissed them off, then try telling your parents that you are REALLY sorry, and you will work your ass off and try to be the way they want you to be. Do not try to find 129 reasons and excuses why it is not your fault for whatever happened, but once in your life tell them what they really want to hear: that THEY are right, you are wrong, and that you will follow their advice, no matter how stupid it seems to you. Even if you do not mean what you say, try what I am telling you. You will be very surprised about the awesome power of "I am sorry!", "You are right!" and "I know I am wrong!". The right words at the right time will do more than anything else in the world.

I want you to know that I too ran away from home one day, without saying a single word. Not for long, only until I got really hungry and came back home after 4 very long days. I was so afraid to return home, but instead of getting my butt kicked, I met my parents ..crying. I am still sorry for that and for how I made my parents cry.. I have lost my father since then and whenever I think back in time, I can see that scene.., the only time when I saw my dad cry.. ever! Don´t let this happen to you or to your parents. Be smart! Think! Get out of this situation the smart way. Everybody can do stupid things, like running away from home. To you it may seems simple to survive for 1 year on your own, but please trust me when I say that once on the street you will have to redefine "simple". You want to be smarter than that.

Good luck, my friend!

Come back with some good news!

Uniden

[30-01-2007,02:28]
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Uniden
(in reply to: My parents gonna send me back to my homecountry!)
Dear Running Away... take a deep breath. You might think it is better out there on the street than being at home and being told what to do - but let me tell you something - I work in downtown Vancouver. I work closely with social agencies dealing with homeless, drug addicted, street kids who have turned 80 before they are 25. Trust me, the rules of the street are much harder than the rules of parents who love you.

Perhaps it is time to get some counselling. It may save your life.

[30-01-2007,03:22]
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Sharon
(in reply to: My parents gonna send me back to my homecountry!)
you can work at 18 in BC. I am assuming that you are finished high school. If you are not going to college - get a job! You will need money to live on while you go to school. A student loan is not the total answer. You have to repay a student loan. You don´t need to be a citizen to rent an apartment. You just need to be responsible.

You might want to do a little more fact finding before you walk out the door.

[30-01-2007,03:26]
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Sharon
(in reply to: My parents gonna send me back to my homecountry!)
Mr. Run Away. take Uniden and Sharon´s words. From legal point as Sharon said, you can work, rent an apt...but that is not the ultimate sol´n. Most likely your life which you still haven´t started will be ruined for ever.

It seems that you also understood that you have pissed them off enough. Why don´t you just express your feelings and apologize to them? They are your parents, nothing wrong or ashaming to do that.

Always keep in mind, family happiness is the greatest thing in life which you never can buy with anything.

[30-01-2007,10:15]
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Shah
(in reply to: My parents gonna send me back to my homecountry!)
If we don´t hear from Mr. RunAway, that means he probably ran away. It is Ok, experience is still the best teacher in life. Many people are able to learn from mistakes. The smarter ones learn from other people´s mistakes and heed their advice and warnings, while the not so smart ones have to make the mistake first before they learn.. What a stupid waste of time!?! :)
[30-01-2007,12:10]
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Uniden
(in reply to: My parents gonna send me back to my homecountry!)
Dear run away - living without any rules sounds great but it is just NOT possible, society has rules whether you live with parents or no. If you rent a apartment you have follow their rules too, if you have a job you have work rules. Better your own rule you than everyone else at least they do out of love whereas the rest do not care - Uniden has really shared with us his story which should help in you making your decision. I hope GOD guides you.
Please give us your number and we will talk to you and may be able to resolve your issues.

All the best!

[30-01-2007,12:49]
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Anon
(in reply to: My parents gonna send me back to my homecountry!)
I agree Uniden; it is very unfortunate to see the wastage of life in western world because of such ego/personality problems. To me most of the time it is due to the infinite limit of freedom sometimes which we all forget or cross.

Anyway, only can hope this fellow will not be within thouse many thousands.

[30-01-2007,12:54]
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Shah
(in reply to: My parents gonna send me back to my homecountry!)
Shah, this is not limited to the Western World, it happens wherever there are humans.. :) If you think "wastage of life" is greatest in the Western World, you may be contradicted by the statistics..

Hey RunAway kiddo.. Listen, do not share private info with anyone on the Internet!
Nobody on this forum should even ask for it either!!! Private stuff is private! Let it remain that way!

[30-01-2007,13:24]
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Uniden
(in reply to: My parents gonna send me back to my homecountry!)
United, I spent most of life in the eastern culture then moved to the west; that´s how witnesssed +/- of both cultures. You are right, also as I said, we all sometimes do it anywhere in the world. But statistically runaway kids like social problems are definitely much higher in the western countries.

To me; in east freedom is too less, in west too much sometimes. Where is the limit? I really don´t know. Best thing would be to use own judgement.

[30-01-2007,13:37]
[***.254.208.242]
Shah
My parents gonna send me back to my homecountry!) (in reply to: My parents gonna send me back to my homecountry!)
Man! So much people answered but no one even said anything about me being sent back to Russia! So that was just a threat? They are not actually going to do that do they? I am so stupid. Though I still thought about that for a minute but I though they were serious about it.
I know that you legally work and rent apartment when you are 18 and without Canadian Citizenship, but because the age of majority here, in BC, is 19, I thought I still have no rights of adult and that my parents still rule over me. But If I get a full-time job and get an apartment, will I be independent? If so I am gonna do it. And I don´t wanna come back to my parents. That´s the very last of my priorities..
I am in the library right now, and my first homeless night was survivable. I think I´ll be able to get a job in KFC, because I used to work there before. Though I don´t know if they hire people with no homes. And please, don´t try to persue me to come back to parents. Maybe your parents have some feelings for you, my parents don´t.
But yeah, I guess I made a mistake. There was no point of running away - I was just so sure they would really do that. Actually how can you be so sure they won´t?

[30-01-2007,14:56]
[**.141.83.253]
I am running awau