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Subject: How well are your kids adjusting?
  I will be landing with my family. i have a couple of kids. I was just wondering how well your kids are adjusting in school and in society in general. Was it difficult for them to adjust to a new culture?
How did you choose the school your kids go to? Are there bullies in school? In our country, we go to high school when we are 13yrs old. How do they asses our kids´ education level?
Thank you.

[12-02-2008,18:52]
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Fely
(in reply to: How well are your kids adjusting?)
questions

-age of your kids
-how social are they now with their friends - are any of them shy?
-how is their english?
-what languages do they speak

your kids will be tested and placed in the best situation for them socially and academically. Canada is very used to new kids from various backgrounds so our system is well prepared to help your children
-are there bullies... yes as there are bullies in every society.

-biggest thing will be for their parents to encourage them, to understand this new culture they find themselves in, to realize there are different ways to do things in Canada that may be different from home.

The kids that have the hardest time are the ones who´s Mom and Dad still thinking they are living in the old country.

Your questions would already suggest that is not going to happen at your house - which is the best thing you can offer your kids in this situation.

[12-02-2008,20:36]
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Sharon
Do Not Worry about Kids (in reply to: How well are your kids adjusting?)
Hi,
There will be no problem for kids. They will take max 6 months to be like Canadians. Think about yourself, especially from job point of view, you may be worried even after 6 years.

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[12-02-2008,21:25]
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Noman Ahmad
(in reply to: How well are your kids adjusting?)
Fely,

Kids usually don´t face big probelms like the adults may face. They enjoy more than the adults as they discover a new world with lots of freedom & no worry and they can adopt the new system far faster & better than the adults. You´ll be surprized to see that your kids are talking in Canadian accent just after few months. The earlier they come more faster they can adopt.

Schools are nice too, discrimination is strickly prohibitted. Don´t worry about that.

School is chosen by the area, every neighborhood has designated schools. Of course some are better than the others, here house price also varies with good school district.

Usually at 16/17 they go to the high school here. Upto high school education is free.

Depending on you, your kids, his/her buddies sometimes cultural clash occur. Some kids may spoil due to excess (?) freedom in their term. Some parents use to send their kids after 12/13 years old back home to avoid such clash. Just few days ago a Pakistani father brutally killed his teenage daughter over this freedom issue. That is not anything to do with Canada or society, it is his personal fault. You have to accept many things in the western soceity, like it or not.

very good idea to live in a good neighborhood & try best to mingle with the locals rather than being only own community concentric.

Mr. Noman,

Be prepare & good luck!

[12-02-2008,22:27]
[**.152.238.68]
Departed_Canadian
kids (in reply to: How well are your kids adjusting?)
i appreciate your replies. this is a big step for all of us and i know we will have a lot of adjustments to do. i have two boys- 12 and 13 years old. They seem shy with people they have only met but they do have a lot of friends in school and in our neighborhood. They speak english but not fluently. we will be landing sometime in june, so they will have a little more time to get used to the new place before they start school on september.


[13-02-2008,01:04]
[***.127.228.6]
Fely
(in reply to: How well are your kids adjusting?)
that is great. nothing harder than arriving in the middle of a school year. I am sure they will be just fine
[13-02-2008,01:42]
[**.155.160.37]
Sharon
(in reply to: How well are your kids adjusting?)
Generally, kids adjust better than adults, so you should rather be worried about yourself and will end up learning a few tricks from your kids ;)

They will speak fluently within a year of arrival, the fact that they already speak English is great.

[13-02-2008,03:28]
[**.149.246.114]
Nikolai
kids (in reply to: How well are your kids adjusting?)
thank you very much. yes, i do have a lot of preparing to do for myself, especially with employment issues, etc. but i am glad that my kids will not(i hope) be having a difficult time adjusting to a new culture. the last thing i want would be coming home to complaining kids. :)... again thank you for all your replies.
[13-02-2008,03:45]
[***.127.228.6]
Fely
(in reply to: How well are your kids adjusting?)
I have a good example that illustrates this issue and Fely you will certainly reassured by this.

When we were living in Virginia, we had a friend who was eagerly waiting for his family to arrive (family = spouse and 3 kids, age from 13 to 18). They come from a remote village in Punjab, India with ZERO knowlegde of English.

They got political asylum so eventually after waiting 8 years they came over to this small town in Virginia where we were living. We decided to help them ADJUSTING.

It was the most interesting experience I had never seen. They came over, happy ..... 2 months later still happy. they had created a "small India" in their house, eating their own food, wearing their own clothes, going to school in English.

4 months later ... happy, 10 months later happy ... yes it was hard for them but they were coping with everything especially learning English with a smile and a lot of will.

Anway later they moved to another state and we had not met them for about 2 years until last Christmas when we decided to visit them.

OOH!! SHOCK ... for us! The three kids were completely fluent in English (with American accent) dressing like American with the latest fashion still happy (and yes eating Indian food) but they were just SO AMERICAN.

It was great to see the transformation, the complete adjustment but also they have kept in their manners and somehow in their house their values, traditions and culture from their home. Nothing was forgotten, they had just adjusted without forgetting their roots.

I have no doubt that your kids will be just fine. Be open and try to make the most of both cultures!

[13-02-2008,13:24]
[**.204.10.73]
CBV333
(in reply to: How well are your kids adjusting?)
CBV,
That is a very good encouraging example, and I agree with you, the kids usually catch up with their surroundings, mostly its got to do with the schools. And the best part I believe is to have a good balance of your original and new culture because I feel as a thumbrule, you then are at a better level in life than the individual cultures by themselves.
Fely, the kids will surely need a lot of emotional support from parents in the absolute beginning though, and you should think about creative ways in helping them meet the local kids etc, engage them in public events, libraries, any activity according to their age group....
you should be fine !!

[13-02-2008,13:50]
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Raj
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