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I landed before 4 months and now i have problems with my wife
She is not with me . She is neither ready to stay with me neither she is ready to give divorce. She only says she dont trust me. Actully she is not comfortable with indians and always blaming me Not knowing most of the canadians things.
She sponsered me. If she gives me divroce or I give her
Will i loose my status. if things dont get settledown.
[29-12-2004,17:00]
Annonymus |
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(in reply to: Loss of PR Status)
Your PR status is quite easy to maintain, if you can avoid becoming violent with her or be incriminated otherwise AND not become a public charge. If she becomes unbearable, best solution is to walk away and not escalate arguments or turn situations into physical confrontation! So you can safely set aside your worries of losing status but worry about the few major things I listed here. I hope this post is helpful.
[29-12-2004,17:07]
american refuse |
(in reply to: Loss of PR Status)
I am sorry that you find yourself in this situation. Let´s assume that your behaviour will be civil and appropriate and there is no need to insure that you will not break any Canadian laws.
In Canada it only requires 1 person in the couple to file for divorce. Your partner does not have to consent. You would file and then it takes 1 year for the divorce to be final. Your partner will still be responsible for you with immigration for 3 years total. You will require the assistance of a lawyer to file for divorce.
If the marriage was valid and not used a means to gain immigration, but has now fallen apart... I think your status should be OK. The lawyer should be able to help you with this situation as well.
[29-12-2004,17:27]
Sharon |
Loss of pr status (in reply to: Loss of PR Status)
There is no question of being violent or any fight with her because she is no longer with me. I talked with my father in law and he said that i should go back.
my problem is she is neither ready to stay with me nor they are ready to talk. They are just sending messages to my parents in india that they should call me back.
There is no harrashment or any kind of law problem.
She simply just dont wont me.
Shall i Inform about her to immigration. Shall i call 911 or Shall i go to lawyer
Please guide
[29-12-2004,18:20]
Annonymus |
(in reply to: Loss of PR Status)
Let me make sure I understand all of this so I do not say stupid things. You have been sponsored by this woman who has decided she does not want you. You are legally married to this woman. Your sponsorship is complete and you are now in Canada. You have your PR card. Have I got this right? I am guessing this was an arranged marriage?
Are you able to work? do you have education? do you think you could be OK in Canada without this woman?
If you already have your PR card I think your immigration status is OK. You are not the one wishing to end the relationship. Your wife will be responsible for you for 3 years- whether she likes it or not.
I offer you the Canadian way of thinking... going home to India is entirely your choice - not your wife´s not your family or her family. There is no point in reporting her to Immigration because the problem is a breach of marriage contract/agreement not immigration law. Reporting the situation would only put you in a more precarious position.
If she does not want the relationship to continue, you have several choices. You came to Canada legally - therefore I think you have every right to stay and I think CIC would support my thinking. Remaining married to this woman or seeking a divorce is something you need to decide for yourself within the context of your culture. From an immigration perspective, I would suggest that you allow your sponsoring wife to initiate the divorce. Returning to India is also a choice you can make but I think it is your decision not your wife, her family or immigration Canada.
I feel very badly for you. You have been put in a new country and have been hurt by these events. I hope you can see through all the disappointment and try to make the best of a very bad situation.
[29-12-2004,19:57]
Sharon |
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I hope this might helps you understand your wife a little bit. It will not change the situation or make you hurt any less but I think you are experiencing something beyond your control.
one of the things immigrant families are discovering is that traditions from their home country do not always travel to Canada very well.
I will guess that your wife has spent a good part of her life in Canada. She has probably gone to western schools and has western friends. Her parents still would like her to maintain her cultural traditions. An arranged marriage is part of her culture. If your wife could be totally free, honest and have a choice of her own, she might like to marry a man of her own choice and perhaps even marry a non-Indian boy.
My friend, I think you might have been caught up in a Canadian problem that affects many new Canadian families. Parents want the old way, children want the new Canadian way.
I know it does not feel any better, but my heart goes out to both of you in this situation. Neither of you are happy.
[29-12-2004,20:48]
Sharon |
Loss of pr status (in reply to: Loss of PR Status)
My marriage is arrange, My wife is a canadian born and buttered.
The suggestion of U guys is very much true. There is no language or financial problem. I know english and I have a Job too. almost $19 per hour. That is not the case.
The problem is how long should i wait. Secondly i am scared that they file a false case and try to create law problems to me. Right now she is not with me so i am not worried. But if they blame me that i am the one not ready to keep the girl then what can i do. i moved to toronto and she never moved . My and Her address is different too.
what step can i take to save myself from law trouble. Because they can go to any level.
Please guide
[30-12-2004,14:21]
Annonymus |
(in reply to: Loss of PR Status)
is there anything in writing from her family that says she does not want you? Try to make a list of every fact since you have come to Canada. What date you were married, what date she says she does not want you, what date her family calls your family in India. What dates you try and talk with her family. The idea is to show that you have done everything possible to make this situation work.
Do you have your PR card? If yes, then keep your information safe and wait for her to ask for a divorce.
I am pleased to hear that you have work and should be able to make a life for yourself in Canada. That gives you the freedom to stay or go back to India- by your choice.
I know it does not sound very good, but this girl has helped you into Canada. She saved you 4-5 years of waiting. Maybe one day this reality will make the pain a little less.
[30-12-2004,15:15]
sharon |
(in reply to: Loss of PR Status)
Thanks sharon
I have my PR card with me. I tried every Possible way.
She says no use because they dont trust me anymonre
I tried number of times but i am tired of trying.
So i stopped convincing her.
[31-12-2004,12:32]
Anonymous |
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like i have suggested before, keep records of everything. take one day at a time - that is all you can do. Take care and please keep us informed about what is happening.
[31-12-2004,14:25]
sharon |
(in reply to: Loss of PR Status)
My advise is as following (I assume you wish to stay in Canada):
Very important - go to a lawyer and record your case. EVen if you don´t want to file for divorce it is important to document the case. Then;
1. Relocate yourself to a city which makes if "physically" impossible for anyone to say you and your spouse are together.
2. Show a valid reason for being in that city (like a job or a educational program).
3. Avoid all contacts with your spouse for a year and in mean-time think on the lines of a divorce.
4. Make yourself socially present (like make new friends) so you have plenty of recognition in the local community.
5. Be productive and show that you are here to stay and will contribute to the local community.
6. Finally - there is no harm in seeing another person - you ought to think about your life ahead; and will keep you thinking about the same thing over and over.
[31-12-2004,19:53]
Anonymous |
(in reply to: Loss of PR Status)
Dude you are in one hell of a soup. Why did this thing come up all of the sudden. How and where did you meet your spouse? Cause if the dude´s at the CIC smell rotten fish they´d jump on ya. If you did something naughty to gain PR then you are really in a big problem. If your case is genuine then goto a lawyer immediately as she may one fine day accuse you of harrasement and you´d be definately then going back packing mate.
[31-12-2004,19:56]
Anonymous |
