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Hi Sharon,
we´ve already had a brief interaction on this forum and I thought you could give me your perspective on something that have been troubling me with regards to my future application (hope you don´t mind).
I´m a 47yr old man who has been divorced for over 10yrs and have been quite happily living my life here in Scotland on my own (through choice!).
I met a Canadian lady of 42yrs old on a chat site over two yrs ago and well....we just felt like we had made a real connection....yeh,bit of a cliche,I know...but the truth is that it was completely unexpected for both of us.
We´ve spent the last 2yrs on the web-cam daily,emailing, letter writing and phoning each other,constantly in contact in one form or another.
I´ve been in Canada on two vacations(soon visiting for the 3rd time) and have met her friends and family.....and everything is great between us.
Unfortunately my girlfriend has been unable to visit Scotland as yet, but will visit this June when we will marry.
My girlfriend has an email and web-cam relationship with my family in Germany but has never physically met them,although we hope to visit there during her time here in the summer.(may I add at this point, that my family are overjoyed at the prospect of me finally rejoining the real world again!)
Now that we have came to the decision to marry and live a more fulfilling life together,I would like to move to Canada.
Now, having read a huge amount of stuff on this forum and having actually spoken to a consultant(who shall remain nameless) in these matters, I feel that a lot of what is required from my future wife and I is geared towards, somehow,being convincing enough to PROVE our relationship is real.
Here,therefore,is my question for you Sharon.
Having been given the impression that all applications are looked upon as being somewhat unreal/bogus/sinister/untruthful/dishonest..are we in a situation, whereby, we can only live out our lives together if we make sure we have all the right stuff in place?
I´m not refering to appropriate paperwork etc but I feel uneasy at having to compile a dossier containing our personal emails,letters,photos and letters from friends and family that highlight the fact that we have a real relationship.
Sharon, I´m sorry if this question seems naive to you but, having read a lot of your input on this site, I´m sure you will clarify things for me without a lot of smoke and mirrors.
Thankyou in anticipation of your reply:Joe
[19-02-2008,19:33]
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(in reply to: Question for Sharon)
I am of the opinion that the older the couple, the more established they are in their own lives, the less the ´non-Canadian has to ´gain´ beyond being with the love of their life, the more unlikely it is that you are using a relationship to obtain access into Canada and CIC is smart enough to see it accordingly. In fact, you are likely going to give up a few things for love rather than gain them.
If your application is age appropriate, economic status appropriate, you have a marriage certificate, I think all should be well. I would send copies of some significant email and pictures that cover the evolution of your relationship but be mindful that CIC does not have an interest in a porn show... they are looking for genuine caring, couple talk that does not have to necessiarily be about intimate things - perhaps even how excited you are to travel or to meet the family or... I think you get my drift.
If you are uncomfortable about including it - don´t. offer what you have and suggest if they want more, you would be pleased to supply.
that is how I see it.
[19-02-2008,21:26]
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