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| Subject: Depressed!!!! |
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Hi guys!!!
I am just here to ask for your opinion. My husband who is a canadian is sponsoring me. After 2 years of relatinship and more than one year of living together I found he´s dating another woman. This situation makes me feel so sad and I don´t even feel like eating.
He has told me he is not going to withdraw his sponsorship
because he has to be accountable since he brought me to Canada, but he realised I am not the kind of woman he wants for his life...I wonder what would happen if I let know this situation to Immigration ..Would I get deported???
I´ve just been feeling that all this time it´s been a loss.
I left an excellent job in my home country because I was so in love with my husband and now I find all my efforts have been thrown thru the window because he doesn´t want me. What should I do???
By the way my application is in process hopefully soon will be finished.
[29-12-2004,22:04]
Sad |
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(in reply to: Depressed!!!!)
nice guy (not). You definitely risk having your application denied if they start inquiring about the current state of the relationship and your sponsor is truthful. If he is not truthful, you also are a risk because there is a chance CIC will find out. I can´t imagine the new lady being cooperative. Not a great situation but totally outside your control.
At the same time, you need to ask yourself some big ugly questions. The biggest is whether you want to be in Canada without the support of a partner. Can you make it on your own - and do you really want to. If your answer is yes, then it might be worth seeing the sponsorship to the end and take advantage of a creepy guy with no ethics. He will still be economically responsible for you for 3 years after you receive your PR.
I know you feel like you have been run over by a truck. I am very sorry this is happening to you. You will discover you are much stronger than you think. The fact that you have posted your message speaks volumes about your personal strength. Hang in there.
[29-12-2004,23:38]
Sharon |
(in reply to: Depressed!!!!)
My heart goes with u Madam SAD but we have an old adage says " if you need some thing from a DOG call him MY MASTER then get your needs and kick him out"
This is what u should do with your dog.
Best of luck Madam SAD and hope to see u Madam happy soon.
[30-12-2004,04:57]
Romantic Warrior |
(in reply to: Depressed!!!!)
Hey Sad dont be sad. The way he has ditched you should do the same. You females have charm use it give him a BJ or get him a vacation or something get him onto the hook for couple of months once your pr card is done then file a civil case against him in the court.
[30-12-2004,11:34]
Anonymous |
(in reply to: Depressed!!!!)
Hay
We are with U. First thing u should take help of your relatives in this matter if they are ready to do so.
Unless and untill U dont get PR Card There is always a chance of deportation. But to deport someone is not easy process. Make sure that u are not guilty anyware.
Dont let your self down. keep yourself busy.
if he is not withdrawing his sponsership then you are safe.
Once u get pr card U dont get deported. So dont worry
[30-12-2004,14:30]
raj |
(in reply to: Depressed!!!!)
Hey Sad many things happen in life. As far as you PR is concerned, you must have confidence and honesty to prove that you entered the marriage in a genuine intent to stay married. If you entered marriage in good faith, you can´t be deported. So keep your chin up. I hope everything will go well with you. You may have to focus onhow to get on your own feet and move on with life. Good luck.
[30-12-2004,15:57]
american refuse |
You guys are wonderful.... (in reply to: Depressed!!!!)
Thank you guys you are wonderful.
The idea of vacation is very smart I´ll take it into account(hahahah). Hopefully a couple of months is the time I´am expecting to get my PR. I ´ve faith in god and I´ve done nothing but being respectful with him and love him with all my heart. I know I can´t change his feelings and I don´t hold grudges against him because we all can make mistakes. At least he is not going to be irresponsable to withdraw his sponsorship. I spoke to him and we´ll stay together until the end of the process. Double pain for me because I know if he doesn´t get home I can guess where he is (sleeping with this woman)( it feels horrible because I still love him a lot).
I´ve been searching about this matter and I read somewhere that CIC says: if you split from your partner while you are in process and if he or she withdraws the sponsorship we will asses your capabilitiy to provide yourself support in Canada.
This won´t be an issue for me because anyways he still will sponsor me and I alredy have two jobs( I´am actually making more money that he does). I really don´t need anything from him. I am a good person without criminal records and I will file my taxes next year. I have a very good will to make things right.
I do apprecciate a lot all the support I am getting from you guys.... My heart goes with you... Thank you
[30-12-2004,16:12]
Sad |
(in reply to: Depressed!!!!)
dear Sad;
You are brave and you are strong. You will get through this - I am sure. welcome to Canada. please make sure you keep us informed about what is happening.
[30-12-2004,16:16]
sharon |
Less sad (in reply to: Depressed!!!!)
Thank you very much to everybody for your support. Fortunately I keep myself really busy working and that is helping me to cope with depression. I have wonderful friends at work and I may spend New Year´s with them.
Thanks to each one of you who took the time to reply this post.I wish you all the best with your immigration process
Love and kisses..!!!
[31-12-2004,13:42]
Less sad |
