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Hello,
I am born and raised Canadian, and am currently finishing up high school. My problem isn´t with me, but my Moroccan boyfriend. I met him 4 years ago and our relationship got really close, to the point where we are now discussing marriage. He wants to come to Canada to establish a life here seeing as he doesn´t have much over in Morocco. He hopes to get a good job and start making a living. The big problem is, he doesn´t have the money to get here. Neither do I, and even if I did, I couldn´t sponsor him because he and I are not married. He has his post-secondary education in computer technician and would like to find a job in that field in Canada.
So my questions are;
Is there any way that a prospective immigrant can get money to immigrate?
How did you adjust to the different cultures?
If anyone could help it would be greatly appreciated
Thank you,
Steph
[27-05-2008,17:00]
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Stephanie |
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(in reply to: In a bit of a problem...)
adjustment to different cultures is much bigger than you can imagine. Is your relationship long distance?
are you of legal age to sponsor? given your age, I suspect CIC would put you through endless grief to insure the relationship is genuine.
There are no government resources to assist with immigration. He should make an effort to come on a work permit. That means he needs to find a job. That way he is not required to show settlement money. Even still, all the application fees, police clearances, medical tests etc... you will need $1,000 to make it all happen.
if he wants to go the standard skilled worker application route... he is going to need $10,000 in the bank and another $2-3,000 for all the fees etc. Not cheap. and that does not include his travel expenses.
If you want to sponsor him and you are of legal age - the best way is to get on a plane and go visit him. Once you are satisfied that he is for real and not using you to escape Morocco, marry him. Once that is done you can return home and begin the sponsorship process. It will take about a year.
Sorry this is all lousy news, I know but it is real life. You are talking serious business, legal agreements, and long term commitments.
Are you sure you love this guy?
[27-05-2008,17:52]
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Sharon |
(in reply to: In a bit of a problem...)
You may also want to look at Quebec (if he is fluent in French).
Ray
[27-05-2008,18:05]
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Ray Masa |
(in reply to: In a bit of a problem...)
he is still going to need $$$$$ and if they go the sponsorship route - our Canadian has to be 18.
the deck is really stacked against this one.
[27-05-2008,18:48]
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Sharon |
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hi, get married and do spouse sponsorship as i think this is the only way..skilled worker applications take way too long...anyway i was in a similar situation to you, as i have a tunisian husband and applied for sponsorship for him to australia - the process seems somewhat similar to the canadian spouse process from what i gather. We had been in contact 4+ yrs and i visited him 3 times for 1 month at a time met all his family etc. we married and applied for spouse sponsorship and they still didnt believe everything, but we were approved because we had supporting letters from at least 3 of my and his friends, his family saying how perfect i was, proof of contact, incl. details showing it was a real long distance relationship etc. i also included proof of my flifhts so boarding passes etc and photos of us with other people - these are of most value to immigration as it showed we introduced ourselves as a couple to ppl.
hope this helps and good luck.
im now waiting for my canadian pr visa to be processed too...we applied for it originally to make our case more convincing but generally seems to be a good idea. :-)
[28-05-2008,09:02]
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the big burp |
(in reply to: In a bit of a problem...)
Curious as to how you met him?
If you are only finishing high school you met him when you were 13/14??
I would suggest finishing high school, getting a job and then working on getting him hear, it´s not cheap and you will need to have continual income to pay for all the different stuff that comes up.
[28-05-2008,20:58]
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Anonymous |
(in reply to: In a bit of a problem...)
Hello again,
I met him online at a point in time where we both were in crisis. I am 18, so I was 14 then, and having major problems. If not for him, I wouldn´t be alive today, and I know that sounds "cheesy" but I´m being completely honest here. He had just lost his father, and I had a death wish. Our relationship never started out as a "love" relationship because at that point I was perfectly happy if I never saw a man again. I didn´t want to be touched, or loved, or anything that had to do with me getting hurt by a man. Just the previous year I had been raped and became impregnated by a man...I late lost the child. On top of that, there were so major issues going on at home. So what it boiled down to was I wanted to die. I was suicidal.
The day I met him was the day I was going to attempt suicide for the second time...I had my plan and was going to execute after I talk to a few people. Our talk was small talk, but we ended up exchanging emails, and a friendship started...
I´m finishing my high school this year and heading off to college for another three. While in college, I´m going to have a part-time job, and do whatever else I can to get money. Either way, I will not be paying for the whole immigration process. I have told him that he had to find some way to pay for at least half of it. If he can´t do it then there is no point in pursuing the relationship, because in some ways the relationship wouldn´t mean that much to him...
Harsh maybe, but a test to see how loyal he is.
His brother is in the USA as an immigrant and he has given me his phone number to talk to him. I have yet to do that...
Thanks a lot,
Steph
[29-05-2008,13:07]
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Stephanie |
(in reply to: In a bit of a problem...)
I just noticed there is an immigration loan...
http://www.servicecanada.gc.ca/en/goc/immigration_loan.shtml
There will be definate interest on it, but it could help some...
Has anyone else used this method?
Steph
[29-05-2008,13:13]
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Stephanie |
(in reply to: In a bit of a problem...)
the loan is tied to refugee applicants. Your guy would not qualify.
While it may seem harsh, asking your guy to come up with half the money is more than fair. It won´t be easy - wages suck in that part of the world but like you say... you want to be sure of his intent and his commitment.
At some point I would strongly encourage you to visit him in his country. Understand his culture, his family, his way of life so you know exactly what you are in for. Long distance can never fully expose the hazards and challenges of living in each others face. (I speak from personal experience)
[29-05-2008,14:43]
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Sharon |
(in reply to: In a bit of a problem...)
I was planning on going there for a couple of months next year on my summer break. He offered to have me stay there with him and his sister and her family (which was confirmed by her). I was going to sign up for Arabic classes for a month, then volunteer at a orphanage (which runs along the lines of what I´m going to study in college) for another month.
I definatly think that it is important to get to know one´s culture before you think of anything too serious. I am reading the Qur´an and getting educated in that too, and learning about what Muslims believe. Religion is a big part of both of our lives, I as a Christian, and he is a Muslim, we have found a medium. I´m fine with being open to other religions, as I personally don´t believe that anyone can truly prove which religion is the only way. He and I have talked seriously about our religious beliefs on a number of occasions...
wow...ok sorry, I´m totally off topic. My only real concern is the money, which is an obstacle that can be overcome if he so chose to. It takes work...which will get him well prepared to come to a western society filled with workaholics ;)
[29-05-2008,16:05]
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Stephanie |
(in reply to: In a bit of a problem...)
something you may not be fully prepared for (coming from different religions) is the dietary restrictions. I found that aspect a little frustrating. My normal shopping activity has turned into an obstacle course as I attempt to find Halal meats and cooking without wine- which I love to do. Fortunately Kosher meat is an acceptable substitute (for most Muslims) but I still get annoyed that I am caught with restrictions that are fully acceptable within my religious beliefs. Your first Ramadan will also be an adventure!
But love prevails and if it is meant to be... you will find ways to meet half way and have a wonderful life together.
[29-05-2008,16:12]
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Sharon |
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