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So here´s the scoop... Not a coupling of convenience, so please, no nasty comments.
Partner~
In Canada
Has work permit
Has 1st stage approval for PR
We have a young baby together, born here in canada. I am canadian by birth.
My question is: We are going through a rough patch, have moved out to try and take some time and work things out.
If things don´t get better, what, if any, rights does partner have over our baby? (got in fight, he threatened to get a lawyer and take our baby) Can he do this, does he have any rights even though he is not a resident or anything yet? He´s working and I am not, (maternity)
Should I revoke my sponsorship?
Help... scared.
[15-07-2008,04:55]
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Anon |
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(in reply to: non-resident and our child)
You should stop thinking like Hollywood. Any parent can get interim custody of a child if they claim the child is imminent danger.
Look at yourself in a mirror and ask your image these question.
HOW DID IT GET SO RIDICULOUS?
WHY COULD I NOT STOP DEFENDING MY POSITION SO STRONGLY?
THE WHOLE PROCESS OF ATTACK THEN COUNTER ATTACK.
WE DID CARE ABOUT EACH OTHER ENOUGH TO MAKE THIS BEAUTIFUL CHILD, DIDN´T WE?
DOES OUR CHILD DESERVE BETTER?
The best advice is to stop defending so strongly or reacting to any comment as am attack for the sake of the baby.
CAN YOU NOT SEE THAT SOMEONE WITH TEMPORARY STATUS MAY FEEL VERY THREATENED AND SAY SOMETHING SILLY DUE TO THE STRESS THEY ARE UNDER ESPECIALLY NOW WITH HAVING A CHILD IN A FOREIGN COUNTRY?
You need to slow down and think back because you know each other so well that sticks and stones don´t hurt but names are like a knife in the heart. You said something that may have increased the anger, frustration, etc. and then he played the Lawyer Daggat comment.
I pray for a behavior change in both of your behaviors for the sake of your child.
Roy
www.cvimmigration.com
[15-07-2008,07:49]
[**.52.219.198]
Roy |
(in reply to: non-resident and our child)
About revoking sponsorship.
Real case.
22 year old super hot (WOW) mother runs to Canada due to severe spousal abuse situation.
Makes refugee claim.
Gives birth two months after arriving.
Waits two years to have refugee hearing.
No longer fears ex-spouse.
Lost refugee claim.
Now this mother of two little ones barely out of childhood herself runs between daycare and two jobs to make ends meet. This women is stunning, super wow yet she is terrified of any man. One day in the park she accidentally meets a man who runs after her little girls balloon.
Five months later they have their first date at Chuckie Cheezees. Three months after that their first kiss only.
One year after that they get married and submit a spousal sponsorship with my assistance.
The man in question does not drink, smoke, gamble and is a super dad for her kids. They get called for a spousal interview and after a really tough interview she is approved stage one and they are all so happy.
The man calls her one day and she is laughing and he gets it into his brain that she is laughing at him with some of her co-workers.
He withdraws the sponsorship!
The very next day they both run to the CIC office and the officer says sorry start all over again with yet another spousal sponsorship. They submit another spousal sponsorship and again get sent for an interview. They attend an interview and NOTHING! They have been waiting for 1`year three months since the interview.
POWER -------------- I CAN PULL HIS SPONSORSHIP!
Should I withdraw the sponsorship so my child may never see his father? So there would never ever be a chance of us getting back together? So we can fight it out in the courts for custody and maybe divide the child in half?
DO YOU REALLY WANT MY OR OTHERS ANSWERS?????????????
I know a lovely mother and a super father who would scream (NO) so loud it would break your ear drums.
Roy
www.cvimmigration.com
[15-07-2008,08:18]
[**.52.219.198]
Roy |
(in reply to: non-resident and our child)
blackmail is a dangerous game. Using a child as a weapon is even worse.
If the relationship is firmly in the tank- fine. withdraw the sponsorship but don´t dream for a second that this man does not have rights to his child. The only thing he has forfeited is a relationship with you.
he may surprise you... gain his PR status on his own merits and sue you for full custody.
[15-07-2008,15:39]
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Sharon |
(in reply to: non-resident and our child)
Hey the same issue one from a man and the other from the better sex.
Grow up and treat all with respect and it will come back to you, that is the respect part.
[15-07-2008,17:35]
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Roy |
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