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Subject: Big Problem
  I got sponsered by my wife in august 2004. In sept she felt down due to strees. at this time she was with her father and i moved to toronto for job in the begining of august and she was about to move. I went to hospital to see her and docotor recommand me to meet her family doctor. Family doctor gave me report in which it was written that she had hydrocephalus ie water in the brain when she was child. But now there is no shunting and she is ok. She was never treated for that. Report says that she has some phycological problem in understanding things. She had special eduation in grade 7 and grade 9 . She has poor acedemic record in shool too. she is not able to understand jokes or she cant plan out anything. She told me that she married me because her father told to do so. She hardly understand what i say. I thought in the begining that since she is canadian and i am indian She is facing problem in understanding me. But now i found the actual reason.
Doctor recommanded me physcological test. My father in law is not allowing her to move with me. Neither he is giving permission for the test. I was upset seeing her report and i had argument with my father in law that he cheated me. But no argument with her or harrashment because she was ill.
Now its 4 months they are not allowing her to move neither they are ready to accept that she has any kind of problem.
Now i am stuck. My father in law says that they dont trust me and they think that i should go back. Accept arugment i have done nothing with my inlaws. She talk to me but she is not moving and staying with me.
What should i do next. Please guide.
1)I am worried about my marriage.
2)Secondly if they give me divorce or file a false case aginst me then what should i do.
3)What happens to my pr status. if case goes in their favour

[17-01-2005,18:48]
Anonymous
(in reply to: Big Problem)
I tried all possible ways to convince my father in law but he is not ready to trust me. I dont want to break my marriage. But things are not working out properly. he thinks that i want to utilize her for immigration.
I am worried and stuck dont know what to do.

[17-01-2005,18:50]
Anonymous
(in reply to: Big Problem)
we gave you some suggestions a few weeks back. Obviously nothing has changed for you.

If you have been offered PR, then it is up to you to decide if you want to give it up - not your parents-in-law.

I recall that there was a post about medical assistance for your wife but it might be outside your control.

My suggestion is to leave things alone. Carry on with your life. Make sure you are not giving CIC any reasons to question your application. If your wife and her family wish to instigate a divorce... it is up to them. They sponsored you - correct? Let them do that.

In the mean time, if you wish to make Canada your home - welcome.

[17-01-2005,23:21]
sharon
(in reply to: Big Problem)
Hope things work out for you.
Certainly your marriage status (divorce) will affect your PR application. Be very careful with this.
Yes, carry on with your marriage and take good care of your wife. I am sure her father will eventually trust you if you are taking good care of your wife.
Good luck.

[18-01-2005,00:56]
Sophie
(in reply to: Big Problem)
I hear this... you say you are married right... Then the father in law cannot argue much baout it.. Its your right to take your wife and settle anywhere you want.. This is provided your wife agrees with you and joins you... External pressure from your father in law is totally baseless... they are taking advantage of you. I mean.. C´mon.. After marriage... your bride will be staying with you right... so whats wrong... jsut keep in good terms with your Father in law and take your wife and settle wherever you want...

Solve the case diplomatically and its a win-win situation for everyone...

Good luck

[18-01-2005,11:31]
Anonymous
(in reply to: Big Problem)
My wife is saying that she will do whatever her father says
I dont think that she is taking the decession by her own
I really have done nothing with them . But since i come to know her medical report of 1998 they think that whatever i am doing to convince them is a fake.
And I am trying to be good to them from last five months but its all going in vain.
And i am sick of convincing them. I dont know what they have in their mind. They are not filing case against me.
I want some restult. Yes or No
I dont mind going back to my country also
But what is my fault if they are not convinced.

[18-01-2005,18:53]
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