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Hi!
I will appreciate if any body give me reply plzz....
Im seperated with my wife from the last 6months and she is not intrested to live with me and we got one child.I dont know what to do
Can i wait for her to take any decision or just wait.
1> Can i apply for seperation now or wait for one year and apply direct divorce?
plz.. give me reply
Thanx
[15-03-2010,20:15]
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Ather |
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(in reply to: Divorce)
either one of you can apply for a divorce but there must be a separation of 1 year before a divorce will be granted. Trying to remember what I did (it has been a long time)... I think I filed at about the 10 month mark of our separation so that the divorce was finalized at the 1 year mark or close after. The details of our separation were worked out almost immediately.
However, you and your wife will need to work out the care and custody of your child. If the child lives with your wife, you will be required to give financial assistance for the child´s care and quite possibly your wife´s care as well. There will also be some discussion about any division of assets. If there are sponsorship responsiblities - that will also play a part in how things are settled.
Who left who does not factor into this reality. All these issues can and should be worked out before the divorce is final. It is in everyone´s interest to do it peacefully and without blame. When you fight - the only winner is the lawyer.
Good luck
[15-03-2010,20:43]
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Sharon |
Divorce (in reply to: Divorce)
Thank you for reply sharon, appreciate that,
My wife was sponser me last year.we got married in india and we stay there in india around 8months, once i got visa we came canada together.
I have some question in my mind, plz.. give me reply.
I dont have good job right now,
1>If i file divorce Do i have to give spouse support?
2>Are there have any issue or problem on my case if i will take legal aid for applying seperation or divorce?
If i will apply social assistance(welfare), will be approve?what is your suggestion?
plzz reply me
Thanx
[15-03-2010,22:43]
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Ather |
(in reply to: Divorce)
I don´t believe you can obtain legal aid for a divorce.
If you are the one that is sponsored, your wife still has an obligation to ensure you do not require government assistance for 3 years from your date of landing. Divorce does not remove that obligation.
In Canada, it does not matter whole files the papers for a divorce. Support is a totally separate issue.
I am not sure where you live but I am sure there are some not for profit immigrant services in your community that may be able to offer you some advice.
[16-03-2010,00:12]
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Sharon |
(in reply to: Divorce)
Sounds like a marriage fraud.
Please do not abuse the welfare system.
[16-03-2010,00:55]
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apron |
Divorce (in reply to: Divorce)
Sharon u r gr8
and apron thanx for your views.
Besically she wants that i live with her parents in a small suburb and my father in law wants to take a business on his name and wants to use me to start his business and build it for him.
I dont like to do any kind of business with them ,
i lived with them around 3 months at father in law home.
when i didnt get any job in that city then
I moved to Toronto.
At last i got one small job and I brought her to Toronto and took furnished Apt.I didnt take any financial help from them.
we lived 2 months together but she dont like to live in toronto and went back to her parents home by leaving me alone in Toronto.
I told her i cant come and live with your parents and called her many times, but she didn´t bother to communicate with me .
She was pregnant and didn´t bother to give me any updates about how baby is growing.
my wife deliverd baby boy lat 2 months back and I came to know this by her close friends.
My stuff ( Clothes and Certifiates) was at father in law´s home and I was calling to get my stuff and they didn´t bother to answer . Even my friends called to them and try to solve the situation, but they didn´t bother it.
I went to get my stuff and see the baby to there home along with local polie officer to protect my self in case, if they make any false alligation on me .
They said go and take court access.they did not show my child and also my wife didn´t bother to come and meet with me even i was at infront of there home.
Still they didn´t tell what is the name of my son.
I came back after taking my stuff back to Toronto.
I tried to communicate on phone also by email too but she never give me any response.
Im sending email daily to her that i will come and pickup you and my son, but she is not willing to come back and live with me.
They just looking any oppurtunity to put me behind the bars by making any false alligations.
Now, tell me what i have to do on this situation?
[16-03-2010,02:30]
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Ather |
(in reply to: Divorce)
first, I think you may need to understand that the way we do things in Canada is not always the same as how things are done in your home country. Your father in law may very well have wanted to give you a good start in Canada - you see it as being his slave. Your wife wants her family around her - you want your independence but have no ability to make that happen right now.
Like it or not, you and your wife may be from the same culture, but your life experience is probably very different. She needs to understand you... and you need to understand her. Your reactions may be a very big disappointment to your wife. Obviously, her reactions and behaviour are bothering you too.
How did you both meet? An arranged marriage? I don´t think anyone believes how a different country changes someone very quickly- parents think it is all fine but the children... not so much.
So, what to do? Is your pride bigger than you desire to keep this family together? If not, then there may be some hope. You have a child together. What is best for that child? If it is too hard for you to adapt, you may want to consider going home. She can divorce you and get on with her life - and you can do the same.
[16-03-2010,02:45]
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Sharon |
Divorce (in reply to: Divorce)
Thanx for giving quick reply "Sharon".
my marriage was arranged through Marriage bureau.
We met 4 or 5 time before marraige,you can say its also our decision to get married and her family also from india.
Now a days im chatting with her to find out what exactly she want?
Looks like she is playing with me, some time she said go and checkup with psychiatrist and some times she is telling come and pick me and take furnished apt.
If i bring her to toronto again, Do i have need to spend $8000 again on furniture and other stuff?
She or her parents never give me a penny.
do i must need to take care of her and her expenses ?
or will she take care me?
Bcoz she sponser me.
Tell me Sharon what i have to do?
[17-03-2010,02:12]
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Ather |
(in reply to: Divorce)
is this about money or is this about a child and making a relationship work. if you are only concerned about who pays what then I would suggest you let it end before it gets worse.
it seems you only care and talk about the money.
What you have to do... decide if the relationship is worth giving up your preconceived ideas for. If not - go home and let her file for divorce.
[17-03-2010,02:38]
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Sharon |
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