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Hi, I need more information regarding the fastest way to take a senior parent here, in Canada. I am a Canadian citizen. My mother lives alone in my home country and there is no one else who can take care of her. She is 88 year old and she needs me to take care of her. I am her only relative alive. What is the proper way to take her here not as a visitor but as a permanent resident? Is that possible? Is there someone who have done this for a senior parent?
[25-09-2011,00:49]
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Liz |
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(in reply to: My Mom needs me to take care of her)
This may not sound very compassionate, but at 88 years old, the chances of CIC approving your mother is almost zero. Processing time is significant. You have been aware of the looming problem for some time so CIC is not going to be very empathetic.
You likely need to do what many of us Canadians have to do - take time off from our work and take care of your parent. In your case, it also means buying a plane ticket.
[25-09-2011,01:41]
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Sharon |
My Mom needs me to take care of her (in reply to: My Mom needs me to take care of her)
Thank you for your answer.
[25-09-2011,01:48]
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Liz |
Hello (in reply to: My Mom needs me to take care of her)
I have been in that situation myself. I hope that things work out for you. Some employers are very good at understanding these issues.
[25-09-2011,05:45]
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Vitorelli |
(in reply to: My Mom needs me to take care of her)
What CIC will look at is why all of a sudden is this necessary.
Grandparent Sponsorship is a total of at least 13 years. It is 48 months just to approve you as a sponsor. http://www.cic.gc.ca/english/information/times/perm-fc.asp
It probably is far cheaper to take care of her in her country than here. Taking a person that old away from all of their everyday normal things can be traumatic.
Wish you the best.
Roy
cvimmigration.com
[25-09-2011,08:20]
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Roy |
(in reply to: My Mom needs me to take care of her)
If she is healthy, maybe you can get her a visas (up to a year) for her to stay with you.
If she is ill..... fly back and spend time with her... I know it´s hard especially so if you have already found a great job... put yourself in her shoe, alone, lonely, sick and no one else to talk to... what happen if she needs medical emergency and there is no one else to turn to???
I call my mom everyday to alleviate her loneliness - that´s all I can do at the moment - I wish CIC would expedite the timeline but I do understand that elderly require more medical attention and it is unfair pay for my mom´s medical.
I wonder where is Roy´s compassion and common sense in this situation???
[25-09-2011,10:11]
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SG |
(in reply to: My Mom needs me to take care of her)
I have had to place my mom in privately funded assisted living this past year. She tells me she is one of the luckiest residents in the facility - why? Because many of the residents have no children close by. They are in Vancouver and their son or daughter lives in Toronto (4 hours away by plane) or the east coast (7 hours away by plane) or in the same province but it is either 4 hours by car or 1 hour by plane or 2 hours by boat. Their children come maybe 2 times per year because the airfare is expensive or they have a job and family that makes it all very difficult.
In our case, we have to wait almost a year before the government will help us pay for my mothers care. That means we pay $4,000 a month for her care. Can she live with me... I guess she could but I am not home all day, so how does that help her?
I would encourage you to fly home to visit with your mother. While you are there, hire someone (maybe a family friend) to help you care for her so that you know she is safe. Visit as often as you can after that.
[25-09-2011,13:50]
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Sharon |
(in reply to: My Mom needs me to take care of her)
To all of you that sugest "Fly home".
Wow, it is very easy to say “fly home and take care” but is anyone thought this things thru?
How you are she is going to “take care” with no income? What about her family here?
It is the real life. Not a fairy tale.
[25-09-2011,14:09]
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John |
I agree with John (in reply to: My Mom needs me to take care of her)
It is very difficult if you live from pay cheque to pay cheque. You may not be able to find work in your mom´s country to support her.
When I was in that situation I had to borrow money from a friend to bail her out from credit card companies ( I am in debt for the next 6 years). Anyways, we all have to sacrifice something in iife to help those who did it for us when we were children.
[25-09-2011,14:24]
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Vitorelli |
(in reply to: My Mom needs me to take care of her)
John, the same questions apply to all families - immigrant or not. And yes... it is absolutely real life. I see it and live it every day. No fairy tale required.
Did nobody anticipate this situation when Mom was alone and daughter got on a plane to live in a different country? Parents tend to get older, and lose partners and get sick and require care. Assuming you can bring them to live with you might be Plan A but Plan B is also needed. In this case, Plan A has little hope of success.
[25-09-2011,14:31]
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Sharon |
Thank You All Of You (in reply to: My Mom needs me to take care of her)
Hi everyone. I was seeking for help and I got plenty of honest opinions. Thank you all of you.
When I came to Canada with my family, our initial intentions were to visit every year for 2 weeks. It didn´t work out the way we planned to. That was our Plan A. Our plan B took place later, when we made an application for a visitor visa. Reasons I am not going to bother anyone with made the Plan B unsuccessful. Plan C now is to find the best way to make the things work. Everyone who got on a plane to live in different country far, far away, made series of diffucult decisions on the way there and has to live with them.
Please do not fight over my case, I highly appreciate all of your honest opinions. Thank you all of you for your time and postings. I believe, we will be able to find a solution in the best interests of my Mother. She is a tiny little lady with a big spirit and we will make things work.
[25-09-2011,16:00]
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Liz |
