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hello all,
My husband and are in the final stages of getting our spousal sponsorship application done. It should be completed within two weeks, just waiting on some tax info to be mailed to me.
I don´t see any technical issue with our application however...after speaking to others and reading online I am becoming more and more stressed out and worried about refusal.
here are my issues:
I am Canadian, white, 22. My husband is 24 and Nepalese. I speak english and basic french. He speaks Nepali, english, sanskrit, malay, and hindi. All very well. His written english is lacking but still legible.
We met in Australia. He was on a student visa but was finished and working at the time we met. I was on a working holiday visa traveling and just by chance met him on one of the farms I worked at (our boss, the awesome man he is, found out I was vegan and had to match us up right away! ) . He had been there for four years by then and finished his college accounting degree from down in Sydney. I chose to travel after high school so do not have any post secondary education.
We met and it was instantaneous that we would be getting married. I stayed there and we moved in together after a few weeks of meeting. to give a timeline, we met in June, and had our wedding in Australia at the end of September. The next week I went to Japan as I volunteer with an environmental group and had it scheduled for a year prior. Two days after returning in october to australia we left together for Nepal. We stayed there with family giving me a chance to meet everyone and see his country. I stayed for three months but due to family tension we chose to start his PR application and for me to return to canada, begin working and saving for our home.
See, we have been together for such a short amount of time. Our plan was live in Nepal for three years and THEN do all this immigration stuff. Two factors changed this 1) our boss in Australia withheld 3000$ from us because the company he was exporting to did not pay him, hundreds of people on this farm had not been paid for a month but we could not refund our flight tickets), it has been five months and we cannot get a hold of the man, we won´t be seeing that money. Our roommate also got our car into an accident during August and would not pay the insurance damage which took out 1300$ of our savings for Nepal. and 2) his family was supportive when we were in australia but were very open in their dislike for me being white once we arrived in nepal.
It was three months of constant tension between certain prominent family members, I was forbidden to enter his parents village, and just general unease for both of us. He handled it well and made it clear that their disapproval did not and would not change anything, however it did change the original plans of living on his parents lands as they originally arranged with us for a few years. Much of his family were supportive and though were disappointed I was white they warmed to the idea after meeting me in person and I stay in contact with them even now I am in Canada.
So, because we did not receive the money we were supposed to have supporting us for a few years and the increasing tension in Nepal we decided to move up our application process and start a more comfortable (socially at least as my family is estatic about all this) life here in Canada. I love Nepal but the process of his family coming to terms with this and me proving my worth as a daughter in law with showing my committment to their son will take quite a bit longer than we can afford at the moment were I to remain in the country. That will take a life time to prove if it happens. We plan to bring his parents here on a temp visa after year of his landing, so we can meet in more comfortable and less intrusive terms for them.
We already have thousands of e-mails, Skype logs, and Facebook messages accumulated (we´re both big talkers) to use, and I have a camera permanently attached to my hand so I have photos of all our outings. Scant wedding pics though, just basic ones, its hard to photograph your own wedding I found out.... it was just us, our friends from work, roommates, and the registrar. Neither of us had family in Australia. I do have the online wedding announcement my family sent out though. he also wrote an excellent letter explaining why we got together so quickly. We are both vegan, for ethical and spiritual reasons, and to find that most important quality along with every other quality you could ever require from a partner...it can not be ignored.
Even our living situation is iffy. In Aus we had very casual weekly arrangements in shared housing, with no actual lease. Everything paid in cash, including our work pay. It was taxed and we have his tax assessments from last year to prove that.
So, all this aside, which I think can all be explained with detailed letters for each issues... here are a few others.
I am a volunteer with a well known environmental group that works world wide. Largely seen as an animal rights group with some campaigns being "extreme" is some reviews. I have only gone on one campaign to another country, with only pleasant encounters with local police who stayed with us almost every moment of the day, along with fundraising here in Canada supporting others. I am an animal activist but I have never had my name taken by police or been in any other media.
I was detained at the US/Canada border once last year for 12 hours because two people I was with were denied due to connection with this organization. They made it clear i personally was not being denied...though they also said I would be arrested if I went through, so I´m not sure. I had no problems going into australia. I did have to be interviewed and searched coming back from Japan and back to Canada from Nepal though but with no mention of the group I was with.
My husband was in australia for a year after his visa expired but was granted a bridging visa when we chose to leave. He wrote a letter explaining the lack of funds and discomfort in returning due to civil unrest at the time to be handed in with our application.
From the opinion of more experienced persons on this board do you see these issues as..well..issues?
Should we explain in full the situation with his family? Not everyone in his family disapproves. it is more..a feeling of discomfort for them and he is the most successful son of a hindu family, and they think I will restrict his ability to help them in old age. The being forbidden to enter their village they made clear it was due to discomfort of their neighbours begin aware rather than dislike for me personally. I know they are afraid of the stereotype of how western (white) people see or value marriage and only have concern for the welfare and happiness of their son. I assure them I do not fit in that category.
I sound terribly whiny and stressed in all this. But at the moment I have about 700 printed pages of messages, forms, hundreds of photos surrounding me and I am going to yank my hair out because no one can give me even an speculation on if any of these factors will affect things!
Also, I do seasonal work in whatever country I travel to, including here in Canada. I love farm and green house work and am currently working with one for the next six months. Does my type of employment become a factor for a spousal sponsorship?
Any suggestions or advice is greatly appreciated.
- Adrine
[29-01-2012,05:43]
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(in reply to: Opinion on our relationship specifics?)
That took me ten minutes to read.
Adrine
Who cares about all this crap. The issue is found in regulation 4!
Are you in a genuine marriage and is he using you to get to Canada.
Even though Income is not an issue you have to comply with IRPA 39
39. A foreign national is inadmissible for financial reasons if they are or will be unable or unwilling to support themself or any other person who is dependent on them, and have not satisfied an officer that adequate arrangements for care and support, other than those that involve social assistance, have been made.
What are your plans for the future?
Read Chavez vs MCI for what you have to show to be in a genuine relationship.
Sad no family or friends from home countries attended the wedding.
Roy
cvimmigration.com
[29-01-2012,09:59]
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