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Hi,
I needed to enquire that if i withdraw my spouse sponsorship case, then will my wife come to know that i withdrew it? Things between me and my wife are not going smoothly since day one and her visa might be stamped any moment but i do not wish to sponsor her. my marriage was a blunder unplanned by my parents for which at that time i did not have any say. can a request be made to cic that my wife should be informed that i do not meet the eligibility criteria or that the marriage does not seem to be justified enough or anything that might help. because if my wife does come to know of the real reason, i will get crap from every one including my parents.
Please advise. Thanks in advance.
[30-05-2005,09:23]
[**.71.123.130]
hart |
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(in reply to: Withdraw spouse sponsorship case)
It truely is a shame that there are spousal sponsorships that go threw so easy with CIC,as in your case,,and by the sounds of it,,you do not even love your wife..If you do not love her,then call cic and tell them you want to stop this sponsorship..Remember it is your life you are living,and not your parents life..Why do adults let thier mothers,and fathers pick and chose who they will get married to..Really i feel sorry for anyone in that situation...I also feel sorry that how easy it is for a spousal sponsorship to go threw easily without love in it threw CIC,,and many sponsorships of spouses that truly love each other,and want to be with thier husband´s or wife´s are refused..Something is not correct in this all immigration process system,,that is for sure..Good luck to you..But my advise is to stop all thing before it is to late for you..You do not want to live in a loveless marriage for the rest of your life do you??...If the start is not looking good,,then think that you have a very long life to live ahead of you...
[30-05-2005,14:24]
[***.177.112.132]
candy |
(in reply to: Withdraw spouse sponsorship case)
I agree, do what ever is necessary to stop the process. 2 reasons. 1) you only have one life and living with someone you do not love is worse than living alone! 2) if your spouse comes to Canada and you divorce... not only do you still have financial obligations towards them, you also put them in a very difficult situation in Canada. If their skills are weak or language poor, their ability to have any kind of good life in Canada is very small. That is not a good scenario for anyone to be facing.
[30-05-2005,14:41]
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sharon |
(in reply to: Withdraw spouse sponsorship case)
You need to send them a letter stating that you no long wish to sponsor..
She will know eventually. She has a right to know what is going on with her case and they ahve to tell her.
So yes, she will know.
[30-05-2005,15:21]
[***.123.170.131]
SW |
so it basically means i am dead meat (in reply to: Withdraw spouse sponsorship case)
I did not and even at this time do not have any say as far as my wishes go. not all the fingers are of the same size so are not all the relationships and marriages of the same kind. my wife unfortunately has been playing a blame game since day one of the marriage and as of this moment its been 3 weeks that she has not exchanged an email or probably replied back to mine. but i guess then there is no use to approach cic but to live with what god has written for me. if she and my parents come to know that i withdrew the sponsorship, i will definitely have a hard time for the rest of my life. but i guess i will let her come and then probably file for a divorce. i dont have any assets that she can lay claims upon so god help me now. wish i could reverse the time. and no, i dont love my wife at all thanks to her habits.
[30-05-2005,21:11]
[***.13.45.10]
hart |
(in reply to: Withdraw spouse sponsorship case)
Hey..If you are over the age of 18,,then you have all the say as what you can do in your life..God gave us all a back bone for some purpose,,you should use yours accordingly..Good Luck!!!!
[30-05-2005,21:21]
[***.177.72.12]
candy |
(in reply to: Withdraw spouse sponsorship case)
Hart, with all respect to your culture... your family can be angry all they want - you are the one with the financial responsibility and the heartache. To be honest (and a little harsh- sorry) , if you do not want your wife - Canada does not want her either. We do not want to look after her, and we do not want to chase you for support! Will your parents support her? Did not think so. What could be worse, living in hell or telling your family that as a Canadian, you are free to choose your life. That is part of the reasons you moved here in the first place.
Please, follow your heart and your good sense.
[30-05-2005,21:23]
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sharon |
thanks everybody for your views and support (in reply to: Withdraw spouse sponsorship case)
thankyou good people, as they say, "easy said than done". tried using my backbone also, but the culture also intervenes a lot, wish anyone of u could talk to me and just give me a push. i have not been able to muster enough courage. but thanks for the encouraging words. will try to use my backbone. i have a few more problems associated to this spouse sponsorship which will crush me completely.
i also read that if my wife´s visa has been issued then i cannot withdraw the case. in those circumstances i will have to live with her for 3 years and then split. maybe by then she will also find her way. though i hate doing that also. dont worry guys, i wont make her a burden on canada and neither will she be claiming welfare. i am not a devil, but just frustrated and abused by my wife and my mother and father.
thanks everybody once again.
[30-05-2005,22:13]
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hart |
(in reply to: Withdraw spouse sponsorship case)
dear Hart... you already show your courage and backbone by posting your problem on this forum. If you need encouragment - come here, we will give you everything we´ve got. Life is too short, living with regret is not living, and family will often respect you when you least expect it.
If your family will not respect you... they are the ones who will suffer the biggest loss.
I am sure there is more to the story, but your heart is very obvious. Take courage.
[30-05-2005,22:36]
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sharon |
thankyou sharon (in reply to: Withdraw spouse sponsorship case)
i am right now in the office continuously going back and forth to see what all encouragement i can get from u people. thanks for the kind words of encouragement. i hope i can muster up courage to withdraw the case. tomorrow morning i am gonna call up cic and ask if it is already not so late to withdraw the case. what is the best reason is should give without causing a lot of harm.
please advise my good people as to how should i go about it. regards
hart
[30-05-2005,23:03]
[***.13.45.10]
hart |
(in reply to: Withdraw spouse sponsorship case)
the best reason - the truth!
[30-05-2005,23:30]
[***.20.170.23]
sharon |
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